Friday, September 21, 2012

Driven to Succeed...But Why??

Greetings everyone!
There is a question I always like to ask myself...Why have I set goals for myself?

My conclusion is that my drive to succeed is not really for personal recognition it is for what others have sacrificed for me, to have the opportunities I do/did have. My great grandparents and my grandparents and parents all worked hard to achieve a little more than the last generation...this is what pushes me through the difficult days. 

I've noticed, the older I get, some people are just complacent with the life that they lead and do not have any desire for more. What is better to me, is not perceived as better to them. The need to live a certain lifestyle does not motivate them the way it motivates me...

People do things for different reasons: sometimes it's to prove to themselves and others that they can accomplish something, sometimes it's just for monetary gain or fame. Other people do things because it is purely what they want to do and others do things because their parents want them to do something else! 

I do not know if anything is wrong with being motivated the way I am but I do want to change my perspective. I would like to shift my motivation to working hard to be as Christ-like as I can be during my time on this earth but I still want to provide for my family members, present and future. 

My greatest accomplish, no matter what pushes my achievement, will be in the number of lives I have touched in a positive manner. All I want is for God and my family to be proud of me at the end of my days. 
To the readers:
  1. What drives your success?? 
  2. What motivates you on the really hard days?? 
  3. What do you want your legacy to be??

Tuesday, September 11, 2012

Fall Hairstyle Dilemma


For a large chunk of my life I have worn my hair naturally. I have had every style of braid and twist you can imagine and all before the age of fifteen. I first decided to relax my hair because I wanted the luxury of pulling my hair into a ponytail when I would workout or have a basketball game, it was never a decision to conform. By the time I entered college, I was ready to "go natural" again. I let my perm grow out while I wore micros/box braids. During college I wore box braids, cornrows, afros and even a dry press in the cooler months. Thank goodness my decisions were never made because my hair was unhealthy, it was just something I wanted to do.

I have always had a battle within myself over how to style my hair. My fear has been that natural hairstyles will not be accepted in a white collar environment. It may be my imagination but I have always felt like I was treated differently with a natural hairstyle as opposed to a relaxed style.

Natural hair was accepted at Spelman College (the best HBCU for black women!) but how acceptable will it really be on Wall Street?

Now, I am twenty-six years old and in business school. I am actively looking to start a career and build a brand for myself.
My dilemma...I want my hair to grow during the fall/winter season but I do not want to wear anymore braided styles!!

I hate the idea of wearing a weave but I do crave the length. My new mission is to nurture my chemically processed hair to promote growth. I am developing a new haircare routine that will include:
  • Plenty of moisture for my hair and scalp
  • Relaxers every 10-12 weeks
  • Flat ironing no more than 2-3 times a week
  • Washing 1-2 times a week.
  • The product line I will be using is Carol's Daughter because Lisa Price uses a lot of natural ingredients and all of the product reviews have been great! 
Carol's Daughter Website

Has anyone else felt like they were treated differently because of the way they decided to style their hair? How does your hairstyle reflect the environment you live and work in?

Check out this article:
Stop Apologizing for Being Black: Natural Hair in the Workplace

Check out these testimonials:
Natural Hair in Corporate America

Thursday, September 6, 2012

Versatile Blogger Nominees...

My Nominees Are...

The Versatile Blogger nomination has been bestowed upon me by Tai Nycole! The Versatile Blogger award goes to a fairly new blogger trying to make a difference. Tai Nycole of Stranded:A Healthy Hair Journey is a long time friend of mine and is a wonderfully insightful person!

In order to accept the Versatile Blogger Award, there are a few directions one must follow:
1. Nominate 15 bloggers who are relatively new to blogging. I'm listing 16 that I have become a fan of from being a #BLMGirl! 
2. Let the nominated bloggers know that they have been nominated.
3. Share 7 random facts about yourself.
4. Thank the blogger who has nominated you.
5. Add the Versatile Blogger Award picture to your post.

Here are my 16 bloggers that you need to follow:

1. Stranded: A Healthy Hair Journey

2. Fabellis
3. The Real Chocolette
4. Spoon Full of Sugar
5. Longing 4 Length
6. Beatrice Clay
7. Food Fashion & Flow

Now, this is the part where I share 7 random facts about myself...
1. I am just learning how to apply make-up and it's only because I was a tomboy for a long time and I am finally ready to break out of that.
2. Even though I am an '80's baby and I love hip hop, most of the time I prefer any jazz to rap. I guess I have an old soul.
3. My actual blogging is so inconsistent because there are so many topics I would love to write about - fashion isn't my thing so that will never be one of them.
4. I think the best reading comes from the Bible...Basic Instructions Before Leaving Earth but compelling stories too!
5. Even though most view me as very mild mannered, my temper flares very seldom but when it does, I hate the person I am.
6. I secretly hope to have a career in performing arts later in life (acting or playing an instrument).
7. I am a coffee fanatic. It's my unhealthy addiction but I love it! The best gifts or gestures for me will always include coffee.

Even though I thanked her on Twitter at the time of the nomination, I would like to thank Tai Nycole for the generosity of her nomination! I promise to make you proud mama!!